How many girls out there believe in love? I mean truly believe that it exists in its purest form, without flaw and without any vice to create blemish. We girls sit in our chairs, curled up and snuggling with a blanket and our Ben & Jerry's pint size, while watching our favorite love stories as they play out again and again. For example, I've sat here for almost half a day watching lovey dovey films on Oxygen. One right after the other, these films teach me what? That love isn't easy. Sure, that's a give-in. It's something you have to work at. But it also sets us up for the idea that happy endings actually occur all the time. This is false. Happy endings are not something that just fall into place. Sometimes you have to create them.
Very rarely does fate step in and say, "Hi, I'm going to introduce you two now." I thought that it happened to me this summer but unfortunately this Romeo is turning out to be just another Boy. He's sweet and good natured, with a smile that can light up any room. And I was starting to feel again. I began to have butterflies, like the ones you hear about in the movies; the kind that make you smile all day long for no reason at all. I'd get excited with every text or meeting. But now, after having a "serious" moment, he's ignoring me. He's losing interest. But what to do now? Do I follow the advice of these films that offer false hope and fairy tale endings? Or do I follow my precedence, where I back off until he either quits talking to me altogether or I just end it before he can decide?
What do you all think? Does fate exist? Can a happy ending occur for normal girls like me? Is a happy ending possible for me?
Rather than believing in fate and destiny why not just believe in yourself (because I know you can do anything you set your mind to Katelyn) as well as that certain things in life happen that you cannot control but you can control what happens after them.
ReplyDeleteTo reply to your question about happy endings I think you need to clarify what you mean by a happy ending... where is the ending? falling in mutual love? getting married? When I asked myself this question to myself I couldn't come up with an "ending" point. What I am thinking is most important is a balance of making the best of things right now and planning/setting yourself up for the future. For example, I am extremely happy right now with the way things in my life are going, but I try not to lose focus of my goals and achieving them.
As far as what should you do know... that is up to you. You should understand though that (like anything) there are pro's and con's to making this decision. Choosing to trust people, open up, give to others, be vulnerable, more times than not will end up worse than better in the "end". But if we do not do this it will be so much harder, or impossible as some people chose to stay guarded, not trust others, or allow another person deeply into their life, so they will not experience that feeling that some of us experience that put ourselves out there. I say "some of us"
because I consider myself in that category. I'd rather put myself out there (although it's not this easy) and be hurt than hold back and not know what could have been. The trick and key I have found is that when things do not work out and you get hurt, maybe hurt again, and again even, to continue to have this attitude and belief that one day it might work out. And that is what it is about... right now it is working out and it is so worth everything I have put myself through and been through. I say it but for full disclosure I mean she... I wish this for you Katelyn. The ultimate happiness feeling, some of this may not make sense because not only have I not really been through something like this but almost everyday I learn something new about life, myself and others and try to continue to learn from it.
Thanks Adam for commenting... I'd have to agree with what you say. Life is enlightening in itself and continues to teach us all things about who we are and what we might become. So the best advice I've heard is to keep your eyes and mind wide open.
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